How to Lead When She Hesitates

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Let me tell you a story. I recently had a client reach out to me, absolutely head over heels for this woman. He said, “Magic, I’ve met this woman, and she’s amazing. I think she’s the one. Everything about her is just great—our match, our chemistry, everything is perfect.”

He described how they have incredible conversations, their physical chemistry was off the charts, and she seemed just as invested. She texted him all the time, sent love messages, and made the effort to hang out constantly. From where he stood, it felt like a solid, perfect relationship. But then, every few days, she’d pull back. She’d get cold feet, become unsure about the relationship, and sometimes, she’d even disappear for a day or two. He found himself chasing her back, and they’d return to the same spot, only for the cycle to repeat.

He couldn’t figure it out—did she really like him? Was she playing games? Should he end it, or was he just being used?

Sound familiar?

This is more common than you think. It’s not that she doesn’t like you, or that you’re not good enough. It’s something deeper. Fear of commitment is a real thing, and it affects both men and women. But before you react or make a decision, let’s dive deeper into understanding where this fear comes from, and more importantly, how to lead her through it.

Understanding the Fear Behind Commitment

To lead, you must first understand who you’re dealing with. People who hesitate or pull away in relationships usually have a tough past. These aren’t bad people; they’ve simply been burned before. Maybe they went against the grain—disregarded advice from family or friends—and it didn’t work out. Maybe they made a big decision that backfired.

And when things went wrong, everyone around them made sure they knew about it. They were told their judgment was flawed, their decisions foolish, and now, they carry that baggage into every new relationship. It’s not that they don’t like you. They’re just terrified of making another mistake.

Imagine the stakes—this time it’s not just about a casual relationship, but one that could lead to marriage, family, and a future. Society is harsh when relationships fail, and for someone who’s already doubted themselves, that pressure is paralyzing.

They don’t want to get it wrong again. So, they freeze. They start to wonder if they’re making the right decision. They second-guess everything.

You might even catch them acting out in strange ways, like flirting with other people or pulling away entirely. This doesn’t mean they don’t care about you. It’s their fear talking, not their heart.

So, How Do You Lead When She Hesitates?

Now that you understand where she’s coming from, here’s the first thing you need to do—don’t pressure her. Don’t push her to make a decision, and definitely don’t start blaming or fighting. If you do that, you’ll only push her further away.

When someone is operating from fear, adding more pressure will make them retreat. They’ll wonder if you’re really the right person for them, or worse—they’ll think they’re making another mistake and run from the relationship altogether.

Instead, I want you to lead with calm and understanding. Sit her down, have a conversation, and tell her what you see. Say something like, “I can see that you’re feeling unsure sometimes, and I think it might be because of something from your past, something that makes you afraid of making the wrong choice again. And that’s okay. We don’t need to rush into anything. Let’s take this day by day, without pressure, and just enjoy being together.”

Let Her Breathe

When you take the pressure off, you’re giving her the space she needs to relax. You’re not demanding a commitment right away, and you’re not rushing into labels or milestones. You’re simply allowing the relationship to grow naturally, without the fear of failure hanging over it.

This isn’t about being non-committal or casual—no. It’s about leading with patience and understanding. Tell her, “We’re not putting any mile markers on this. We’re not saying we need to be together for the rest of our lives right now. Let’s just enjoy this and see where it takes us.”

In doing this, you’re showing her that you’re not like the others. You’re not pushing her for a decision. You understand her fears and are willing to walk with her through them. And guess what? This makes you the man she feels safest with—the one who really gets her.

Trust Takes Time

With time, she’ll start to relax. The anxiety will fade, and her trust in you will grow. She’ll get to know you more, and you’ll become her source of comfort. She’ll stop pulling away because now, she has the space to feel safe, knowing you’re not going to force her into a decision before she’s ready.

When she sees that you’re patient, understanding, and not pressuring her, she’ll start to believe that this relationship is the real deal. She’ll stop doubting whether this is another mistake and start leaning into the connection.

There’s No Perfect Relationship - But She Is Worth It

Here’s the reality—there’s no perfect relationship. Every partnership has its challenges. But when you’ve found someone who’s worth it, someone who genuinely cares for you and shows it in their actions, it’s worth the effort.

Pay attention to how she treats you. If she’s texting you, doing thoughtful things, showing she cares in small ways—that’s her way of saying, “I care, I’m trying.” And if the chemistry is there and you see a future with her, take the time. Give her the space to feel safe with you.

Remember, no relationship comes without effort, but the ones that last a lifetime are the ones where both people are willing to grow together. By leading when she hesitates, you’re showing her that you’re not just a man who demands, but a man who understands and can lead with strength and patience.

When you do this, the odds of this turning into something deep and lasting are high. And that’s when you know—you’ve built something that’s not only strong but built to last.

Take care, lead with heart, and trust that the best relationships are worth the effort.

Until Next Time!

Magic Leone

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Had One Night Stand After Watching DVDs

Magic!

Thank you so much for sharing your videos.

I actually ended up getting an One Night Stand right afterwatching your DVDs.

Seemed to work really well haha.

My handle is XXX if you want to read the report. Please let me know what you schedule is going to be like afteryou return from visiting your family.

I’d really like to schedule one of your training sessions.

Thanks again,
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Made Love With A Girl Who Was My Long-Time Friend!

Thanks Magic! I made love with a girl this weekend who was my friend from long time.

With my new look and aggressiveness i think i was able to come out the safe guy mode.

You changed my life!
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Slept With Two Different Girls Back To Back!

Hi Magic, I can’t begin to tell you how much I’ve learned from you so far.

I’ve read ‘social mastery’ watched the social circle DVD’s and had a 30 minute phone call with you.

All of this has made a big difference.

I had my first ‘back to back’ two weeks ago where I slept with two different girls for the first time. One of them was 25, which is really the age category I find myself attracted to (I’m 32).

Thanks,
-George
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Pulled 5’10” Eastern Bloc Model Home The Same Night Using This System!

I tried several aspects of social circle game just for one night at a dance club to see what happened.

After about 2 hours I realized that I could have slept with at least 5 or 6 girls just that night. It was ridiculous. And then I ran into a gorgeous 5’10” eastern bloc model with strawberry blonde hair and amazing bone structure named Natalia.

I used various techniques from your system. The next thing I knew she was dragging me outside to hail a cab back to her loft. The sex was incredible, sex usually is but what made this time so perfect, so gratifying was I wasn’t at the mercy of who was interested in me.

-Cole
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I Had A Girl Take Me Home That Weekend And Now Two Weeks Later Another!

After getting your online book I had a girl take me home that weekend and now two weeks later another. While I’m slowly learning all you teach I think your book gave me the confidence to push through my social barriers that had built up via being more physical sooner, more playful and showing more direct interest. 🙂

Thanks keep up the amazing work and fresh perspective on the game.

-Ivan
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Girls Were Having Three Way Kisses With Me And Wanted To Take Me Home

Hey Magic,

Life keeps getting more awesome! I wanted to let you know about the last time I went out.

I have several social circles that I know there along with seeing random friends there all the time. When I went last week I met one of Julies friends, Liz (very cute)who was very interested in me.

I was also talking to a girl (also very cute) from another group of friends and I had a feeling she was interested in me as well. Toward the end of the night I had both girls who were leaving with their friends trying to get me to go with them.

I basically had to decide which girl I wanted to take home that night. That was one of the best problems I have ever had! Liz, the girl I choose is very Bi and I think that could lead to more good things!

And I left things well with the other girl so that is still an option later. That night there was a lot of girls making out with girls and having three way kisses with me and 2 girls. It was a good night!

Talk to ya later
-Danny

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Had Sex The Same Night With A Girl I Met At A Shopping Mall

Hi Magic,

Everything you teach about dating and seduction fucking works.I met this girl at a mall . We decided to hangout the next day. She texted me the next day to confirm if we were still on for the date. This has never happened to me before.

She was nervous and told me that she never goes out with random guys on a date. I told her that I was nervous as well and then took her hand and put it on my chest to feel my heartbeat (I got this from your video Magic).

She was so turned on that she started kissing me and man it was awesome. She gave me the best kisses I ever got. She was licking my neck, ears and was kissing me wildly. She even caught my manhood and she could not stop herself.

I took her to my place right after this. I told her to masturbate in the car on the way to my place (This was the first time that I ever used it,and it fucking works like magic) She totally went with it. Use your imagination after this !!!!!

Thanks again MAGIC!!!!
RESPECT BRO…….
James!!!!
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Dating Married Woman Who Left Her Husband For Me!

Before I heard about you, I had literally spent years trying to make myself an attractive guy and had made very little progress.

I was focusing on all the wrong things. I was wasting my time in bars all over the city, because at that time, it felt like a job.

After I was introduced to your method , I just felt better about talking to women. I felt like there might be some progress that was happening or was about to happen.

Shortly after that, I met a woman. With the ideas you taught running through my head, I was able to be relaxed and fun enough that we ended up sleeping together right away.

Only a few weeks after she and I met, we admitted to one another that we were in love with each other.

I say “admitted” because we’d begun the relationship with the understanding that we would not get attached. She was married and I was more interested in being single.

That was over a year and a half ago. She and I are still together. She’s separated from her husband, whom I’ve met (he’s a pretty cool guy). Her mother knows about me and supports my girlfriend’s decisions. I’ll be meeting her very soon.

I hope I’ve made it clear that none of this would have happened without you. You taught me how to show my best self to the world.

You taught me how to recognize the opportunities that come my way. Most importantly, you taught me to believe that I deserve all of this.

Your work helped me develop a sense of self-worth that I didn’t even know I was missing. Thank you for that.
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“Magic Put Dale Carnegie To Shame”

Social Circle Dating is not a very good title for this product. Honestly, it’s a shit title. It should be called Life According to Magic.

When the video begins, Magic gives a brief overview of the topics he’s going to cover and it all sounds like exactly what you would expect: making friends, dating and sleeping with women in your social circle, dating and befriending co-workers, etc.

All of these things are explored in such depth and detail as to put Dale Carnegie to shame.

It soon becomes clear that Magic hasn’t produced a video about building and managing a social circle; he has put to record what, to my knowledge, is the most comprehensive overview of his knowledge, attitudes and perspectives.

By the end of the video, he’s no longer talking about making friends and getting laid; he’s telling you what it takes to be happy.

If you buy any one product from Magic, this should be it.
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Recently Met An Actress

I want to thank you. You’re DVDs changed my life, and it is still on going.
I live in Korea, and it still works here.

I’ve been practicing with your stuff, I had succeeded with the 10s. Not even 9s, not 9.5s but 10s. Friends are amused of what I’ve done and doing.

Recently I met this ’10’ girl, who is an actress. Of course she is beautiful, and I wanted to know her better as I met her again and again so we’ve been dating for about a month.

We ended up making out, and I didn’t go any further than that. After that I walked her home, and said goodbye. I was happy that we are going to be in a relationship.

We made a short phone call(She called me to ask if I was back home well.) than slept.

Will update you soon!
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