Ready or not, it’s time to get rid of those nasty old tennis shoes, flip flops, paint splattered gym clothes—you know the stuff I’m talking about. It’s time to get rid of all the outfits that you’ve been holding on to for years simply because it still fits. The transformation you want to happen has to happen from BOTH the inside out, and the outside in.Fashion is a key step in Attraction Methods. It’s an important component to our coaching weekends as we focus on finding a personal style that works for each of our clients.Magic and I may dress considerably different, but our philosophy is the same. We focus on standing out, being unique, and displaying our confidence without drawing blatant attention to ourselves like a lot of PUA’s.Personally, my wardrobe has changed drastically over the past few years: Partially because I am much more comfortable and confident with myself, and partially because I’ve seen too many people wearing too much of the same thing.Fashion is just as important as working on your game. And you don’t have to spend a lot of money on new clothes. In fact, I shop a lot at Marshalls, Ross, Plato’s Closet, and various thrift and goodwill shops.My fashion is still about being unique, so I wear outfits that no one else may wear. I wear boots with my dress slacks. I wear vintage t-shirts at a black tie event. I wear faded jeans at a pool party.My style works for me, but it may not work for everyone. I explored a lot of different styles before settling into this one. And my style may change again in a few months. But, for now, here are a few of my rules when shopping for clothes.Rule #1) NEVER Grunge.
Never grunge. Never grunge. I can’t stress this enough. ALWAYS look sharp. Remember this as a general rule, everyplace and every time. Dress like a rock star. Dress like people will be noticing you.The first step in defining your own wardrobe and fashion is to discard EVERYTHING you have that makes you look sloppy. Messy may be sexy, but sloppy is not (And I will admit that there’s a fine line between the two). Wearing sweat pants and a wife beater is sloppy. Wearing faded jeans, cowboy boots, and a vintage t-shirt is messy. This may mean completely discarding EVERYTHING in the closet, but in the end it’s worth it.Rule #2) No Labels.
When I shop for t-shirts, the first thing I do is look at the inside tag. Then I look at what’s printed on the shirt. If what’s printed on the tag is also on the shirt, then the shirt stays on the rack. This means no Nike swoosh, no Ed Hardy, no Affliction, no Hurley, no Polo, absolutely no labels.Celebrities get paid a lot of money to advertise a product. So think of wearing a label as a free advertisement for somebody else. A label is a clear indication that the item has been mass-produced, which means that 1000 other guys might be wearing the same shirt today. In kindergarten it was cool to wear the same outfit as a classmate. But you are an adult, and wearing matching outfits is nothing short of embarrassing.If it looks like it’s mass produced, it stays on the rack. Ed Hardy and Affliction were popular when no one else was wearing their designs. Now, thanks to TV shows like Jersey Shore, everyone is wearing their designs.Standing out is about being confident in something new and unique. There is a world of fashion to explore.Protect yourself. Find something unique and you’ll never have to worry.Rule #3) Be Print SmartIf it’s advertising a beer, a food, a place, or a cartoon character, it stays on the rack. Sports team apparel also falls into this category. Nuff said.Rule #4) Slim Fit Is The WaySlim fitting is usually the best—which means try on everything. The size on the tag varies per manufacturer, so it’s worth the time to try on every piece of clothing.I used to wear a size large across the board, but that’s now changed to a medium for a slimmer fit. BUT, some of the t-shirts I buy are a size small because that’s just the way the manufacturer has designed the shirt.Be open to trying on different sizes. Also, it helps to get a second opinion from someone who works at the store.Rule #5) Be Comfortable.
It’s best to pay a little more for comfortable shoes and pants than to suffer by trying to look cool. Pay attention to the fabric, the stiffness of the material and the softness of the shirt. Are you more comfortable in a stiff pair of new jeans or a soft pair of vintage jeans? All of these things play a part in being comfortable.Being comfortable allows you to feel more confident in your own clothing. Being comfortable is being confident in standing out and being noticed. Some of this may come naturally, but to others this may take a bit of work. Stay the course.Rule #6) Dress Up vs. Dress Down.You can dress up an old t-shirt with nice jeans and nice shoes. You can dress down a suit with tennis shoes or boots. But no matter what, your clothes should be in good shape. Get rid of anything that has big gaping holes, food or sweat stains, or in serious decay. Live and die by this rule.Rule #7) Accessorize
Accessories are a great way to make your outfit unique, and to help dress up a wardrobe. If you’re at the gym or at the beach, a wrist wrap is a great way to stand out. If you have tattoos, wear clothing that shows off the tattoos (yes, I consider a tattoo a permanent accessory).As for my accessories, I try to find pieces that are one-of-a-kind. Many of the necklaces, rings, and wrist wraps I wear are from local shops or purchased at street & art festivals. This is a key element in finding one-of-a-kind art. When a person comments on an accessory you’re wearing, you’ll also have a unique and personal story to tell about the artist who custom made it for you, or what city you were in when you bought it.Now, after reading all of this, I’ll say once more that my personal style continues to evolve. BUT, at least you have a starting point. Be true to yourself! Be good to yourself!Take great care in your personal appearance. This not only helps attract others, but also helps boost your own self-confidence. There’s a world of fashion to explore. And don’t be scared to explore.Come to our workshop or signup for a fashion makeover for men and let us give you an impeccable style that will get you the right attention to attract women.
