Before you start reading, I have to warn you that this particular letter is very disgusting.
I am going to share something very intimate from my past with you. I am very uncomfortable sharing this but because It makes a very good lesson I am sharing it with you. I wish I could have made up something else but you know I only teach from my real life experience.
This morning I was out for a morning walk with Travis, our new coach in Training. He is the guy I wrote about few weeks back who pulled a beautiful woman in Vegas over New Years Eve.
I like Travis because he asks very interesting questions. Today he was discussing with me: how to become more laid back and act funny if you haven’t done this for most of your life.
I told him that most people use logic to act funny. When engaged in conversation they think consciously what to say or do so their speech or act becomes funny.
This is an incorrect way of transforming into a fun person.
If you want to be fun around people, you need to experience fun before you can act fun.
There is an old acting trick used by famous Hollywood actors for ages. In order to express an emotion they first live that emotion then act it on stage or for camera.
For example, if the actor is supposed to display emotional pain he/she spends couple of minutes thinking of a time or event from their life where they experienced emotional pain. They relive that moment in their thoughts.
Upon experiencing this emotion their physical and mental state changes. Now their act appears more real and natural because their emotional state has been taken over by the memory they just relived.
If you want to be fun around people do the same.
Spend few minutes thinking of some funny event, line, act or movie. If you start laughing or giggling thinking of whatever it is that got you going, you have attained the state of being fun.
Now when you go and talk to women or anyone around you, your conversation will be very friendly and full of lighthearted comedy.
However be careful to not think or experience slapstick or sarcastic comedy else that is what will come out during your interaction.
Initially this will be a struggle. You will have to consciously think of events to get you in the right state.
Keep doing this on regular basis and soon it will become your habit. Then you won’t need crèches anymore to get in the state. You will automatically become a fun person.
You can use this exercise to alter any of your personality trait or limited beliefs as well.
Now the question is why do you need to make this change on emotional level as opposed to physical level? Meaning why can’t you pretend to be funny and not feel or become funny.
This is a very voodoo kind of answer. Your emotional state controls how you act and behave in the real world.
Try this sometime: Talk to someone when you are feeling angry and you will notice that even if you try to be nice, your actions and choice of words will be aggressive.
Or maybe watch a really funny movie and call one of your friends right away and you will notice that your conversation will be very lighthearted and fun.
This is why when we feel depressed or down we don’t feel like talking to other people or our answers are barely yes, no or one word responses.
Your emotional state not only has a bearing on your interactions but it affects how you live your life and how you interact with people around.
Here comes the disgusting and embarrassing example from my life. Long time back when I was struggling with women I would go out and meet a woman. She could be just a friend or stranger it does not matter.
I would then come back home and when I would masturbate I could only see her having sex with someone else. I would envision this woman doing nasty sex acts which helped to get going but I could only see her do it with other men.
Yes as embarrassing it is to admit and mention I was very fucked up emotionally and mentally. Even in my fantasies I could not think that a woman would want to be with me.
This changed one day when I met a woman, flirted with her and could tell that she wanted me.
When I came back and got in the act, for the first time in a very long time, I saw myself having sex with her. I could not imagine anyone but me in bed with her.
After I was done I realized what had happened on this day and how I was hurting myself for the longest time. Until this day, I was strengthening my inner beliefs that good-looking women will never sleep with me. Consequently, when I met good-looking women I never tried to seduce them because I was convinced I was not good enough.
The good news in all of this is that if I can turn things around for myself, If can rise from that negative place there is no reason why you cannot!
I chose this drastic example to tell you that whether you are struggling with inner confidence or struggling to fix an outer trait like becoming funny, you have to start experiencing the behavior on emotional level for it become real and effective.
This is the only way you will make the transformation and make this new belief system or trait yours permanently.
Why do you think clients who train with me start getting success right away? When I teach a client I first investigate what is preventing him from succeeding then over the next few days of workshop, I plant the new behavior on emotional level.
As result 3 out of 4 students I train end up sleeping with women within one week of training. You can read their stories here. These are verifiable results and no other coach can even come close to these results.
Honestly man, if you are tired of struggling with women and want to make dating worries a thing of the past then sign up for an upcoming workshop. Let me help you overcome your limitations. Let me show you the path to instant success not just with women but also in other areas of your life.
Your life will never be the same once you are done with my workshop.
I guarantee that a workshop with me will be the best investment you have ever made on yourself. If you experience even 1% dissatisfaction I will gladly refund your money.
Send me an email with your phone number and couple alternate times to reach you. Let’s get on the phone and discuss this in more detail.
In the meanwhile, work on the exercise above to bring changes into your personality. This will help you become attractive and instantly seduce women. Just trust me, I know what I am talking!
Take care man and talk to you soon!
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