Today I will discuss how to become good with women and enjoy your dating life.
Often, men who struggle with women change into someone else.
They assume they are not good enough and their dating approach isn’t accurate.
They start looking up to other successful men and transform their personalities to become good with women.
This is a mistake, and I made this myself!
The last thing you want to do is to become someone else so you can date women.
You will stop enjoying the process and feel fake around women.
You will doubt your connection with the woman and even end things frequently because something feels wrong.
The biggest problem is that when dating becomes mechanical, you lose the charm.
You start leading women through a specific process.
Your focus shifts to strategy and intellect, and you stop experiencing emotions in her company.
You do not enjoy your win even if you get the woman.
The best part of the attraction is not knowing if you will end up with the woman you desire.
Attraction disappears if this disappears.
Your ultimate dating goal should be to date beautiful women while being who you are and be ok if things do not work out.
The objective of any training should be to develop the confidence that you are good enough to get women.
We get confused when our relationships fail.
This results in a loss of confidence.
We start doubting ourselves and lose the courage to flirt boldly.
We become shy of our desires and start playing safe or not playing at all.
This is why we start modeling our approach after another successful guy.
We assume his approach is the right one since it is working.
Use the tactics you learn to get started and experience success.
Let this be the proof that you have what it takes to get women.
Then flirt with women as you please.
For example, I prefer having sex before dating.
However, I compromise this principle when I feel like it.
I may get romantic and hold on to getting sexual because that is what I am enjoying at the moment.
This may backfire at times, but that is ok.
I want to enjoy my interaction with her.
I want to experience a natural chemistry with her.
I want to feel vulnerable and wonder what the outcome will be.
I want to be ok making mistakes, acting out stupidly, and losing a few women.
This makes me value and enjoy the woman I get.
Now, I do not doubt myself or my ability to get women when things do not work out.
I may mourn the loss of this woman, but don’t feel less in anyways.
The right dating strategy for you is the same.
Go through dating programs and make a few improvements in yur first impression, tonality, and conversations.
Build your confidence.
Then flirt with women as you like.
Enjoy the vulnerability that comes with the risk of losing her.
Learn to handle situations when things go wrong.
Be ok with few losses you experience.
And keep going.
This way, you will feel like a natural.
You will continue to enjoy dating and being vulnerable.
Until Next Time!