Good men spend their entire lives in fear.
If you are this guy, you probably freeze when you see a beautiful woman you would like to be with. You want to talk to her so bad but you just cannot figure out what to say or do that will work. So you just stay and watch her walk away.
When you like a woman in your network, you probably end up having long platonic conversations with her instead of flirting with her and asking her to go on a date with you.
You prefer becoming friends with a woman first because it is safer. It reduces the risk of rejection. You can now spend time with her and if you think she likes you too then maybe you can ask her out else just stay friends with her.
This happens because to you going after a woman is risky. What if she says no? What if others find out she said no? What happens if she yells or insults? What happens if she has a boyfriend and he shows up?
What you should be doing instead is to approach the woman you like right away. It does not matter whether you saw her walking on the street, sitting at a cafe, in a bar, in your class, or at work. This is a woman who caught your eye. There is something special about her. You desire to be with her so do not hold back.
But if you feel you lose a lot of opportunities not just in dating but in other areas of life as well, then it is time to do something about it.
When you see a woman you like and your default programing is to not approach her, then you need to do something about it.
If you are with a woman you like but you hold back on flirting instead become friends with her, if you are afraid to ask her out for a date, afraid to kiss her and get intimate with her – you absolutely need to do something about it.
You need to change your mental and muscle programming. You need to change your belief and value system.
What you need to understand is that playing safe is way more painful than taking a chance.
You hurt yourself every day by not going after the woman you like.
If you can replace this with the attitude to not hesitate and go after every woman you like, not only will you feel great about your actions, you will soon end up with a beautiful woman.
What I am trying to tell you is that you need to change your focus. Winning is not ending up with a great woman. Winning is going after a woman every time you want to.
And if you feel unprepared then build a quick game plan. Learn a few conversation pieces, attraction pieces, confidence pieces that you can use every time you meet a woman you like.
Learn ways to make romantic eye contact, ways to ask her to join you on an instant date, ways, to ask her in front of everyone boldly, ways to walk away gracefully if she is with someone else or not interested, learn ways to initiate the touch, to go for the first kiss, to create a connection.
Once you are prepared, start going after every woman you like instead of avoiding them. Watch how your confidence and happiness will grow when you become this person. And watch how you will end up with a beautiful woman in no time.