Before you start reading this post, I must caution you that this piece will only make sense to advanced students. You have to have taken a workshop with me in the past or been actively dating women for couple of years for the content to make sense.
I just returned from Austin. I was there to give a lair talk.
On the way back from Houston, I met an incredibly beautiful European woman. (I am going to change few facts about her to protect her identity.)
We started talking and chatted the whole 4 hours of our flight. We had an incredibly strong connection. We made each other laugh, brought tears and got to know each other really well during this time.
She was very different from most women. She was driven yet laidback. She was feminine, good looking, well dressed, confident and lot of fun to talk to. She had positive energy.
She had integrity and believed in herself. She was pursuing a career in Chinese culture and wanted to use this knowledge to better the experience of people she would work with.
I was very impressed with her uniqueness. She had everything I want in my woman. Her company made me feel good. I could see appreciation and love for me in her eyes, voice and body language.
Despite such strong connection, I did not take the interaction to the next level. I did not make any attempt to turn this into a romantic connection past the point we were at.
I did not make the attempt because toward the end of our interaction I realized that she was caught in a dilemma that was troubling her.
She already had a boyfriend back home.
She was at a place in her life where she realizes that her relationship with her boyfriend has gone stale because of the distance. She mentioned that because of the distance they are growing apart. Yet she had not done anything to change her situation.
Now I could have easily lead her and told her that often people stay in the relationship, even if it is not working, because there is no motivation to move on. But I did not do so.
I am at a place in my life where I want a true connection to happen because I want to settle down. This makes it very important that I be with a woman who wants to be with me just as much as I want to be with her.
This is why if she feels the same way as I feel for her, she will have to take action on her end. She will have to breakup with her boyfriend so she can be with me.
I will continue to be friends with her. (I took her email address.) If something is meant to happen it will happen if not then not.
I understand that it is not every day you have a connection like this with a woman but it is also not uncommon when you become confident and sexual guy. There is not a single day some woman does not approach me and give me a compliment.
At least once a week I experience a strong moment with some woman. I usually dismiss these women because they are missing something or other that I absolutely require in a woman.
This particular woman that I am talking about had almost everything I would want in my woman. This does not mean she didn’t have her flaws it just means that things I value the most were present in her.
Now if you are a beginner you are wondering how the hell can you benefit from an advice of leaving things to fate.
You don’t!
This is why I mentioned in the beginning that this post is for advanced students and not even every advanced student will benefit from this. This is more for people who think and live like I do.
This is just one way of approaching things when you are at a very advanced level.
You are at a place where you care for experience more than you care for the outcome. You are at a place where you want something more than the feeling of winning a woman. You want a woman to be with you because she wants to be with you out of admiration and love, not because you reeled her to be with you.
If you are a beginner, you should do it differently.
First, obviously you need to learn how to form this type of a strong connection. Social Mastery Book, T.E.A.S.E videos and live training will teach you how to do that. These three training modules will show you how to approach any woman and build a rock solid connection without using, routines, pick up lines or lying.
We are all about being honest and doing it the right way.
And yes honesty delivers results. It brings more results than any pick up technique can.
Read client reviews and see for yourself how many of my clients have successfully built the kind of relationship they wanted. This ranges from having one-night stands to finding that one special person. And these are not even the 20% of testimonies I have. I have hundreds more that I have not published. You have read some of them in the weekly newsletter.
Moving forward, after you form a strong connection and notice that this woman is into you, but is struggling with the fact that she has a boyfriend, you will make it easy for her by leading her to do the right thing. The right thing for anyone is to be with the person they like and not hold on to some old dying relationship because they feel guilty.
You will do this because you are a beginner and you need to date multiple women and build the strong confidence and belief system. You need to earn experience with women. This will enable you to establish and live a healthy relationship when you are ready to be with someone special.
If you are at an advanced level, you have the option to do what I just did. You can do this because you feel that you want to be with the woman for the right reasons. You want her to feel for you like you feel for her. You want this to be a lasting relationship. Obviously there are other ways to accomplish this but I am mentioning this particular mindset because it is nowhere else to be found.
I decided to write about this fact because I was comparing my present behavior with my past. In the past I would go desperate and make attempts to make this woman mine. I would not want such a strong connection to go to waste.
Now I focus more on celebrating the fact that I had such good time with her. I cherish the love I saw in her eyes for me. I enjoy thinking how she looked at me and how she did not look at me. I enjoy reminiscing the conversation we had. Knowing that her feeling for me at the time was real makes me happy.
I simply enjoy the fact that she liked me even if it were for a moment. That is a prize for me.
In the past this was not sufficient. It was not sufficient because I did not know if such a connection would happen again or not.
Don’t get me wrong. I am not going to give up on her. I will stay friends with her and allow life to happen. But I won’t try hard because I know in the end there are more women out there and I will experience this moment again.
Besides what’s the point of leading her to date me if she does not on her own appreciate me enough to be with me.
When you have similar experiences 5-6 times a month you feel confident and assured.
Even if those 5-6 connections do not happen with the kind of woman I want, these interactions assure me that women love me.
It is only a matter of time before I meet another woman, like this European woman, who has what I want in my woman. Or maybe this will lead into something more because we will be talking.
The point I am trying to make is that if you are a beginner start by dating as many women as you can, unless you are simply looking to date one. This helps you build skills and confidence to date women.
Then relax and not worry too much about dating women. Start enjoying the process and lovely moments that will come your way every day because of the confident and sexual vibe you will give out to the world.
You will now have the mentality of abundance, which will help you attract the right mate for the right reason. This is the only way you will find someone compatible for the long run.
Smile and relax. Things will soon change for you. Reading this post is a sign that you are working to take control of your dating life. Stay focused and be happy. Before you know it, you will be making memories with someone who feels right.
Now get the hell out of here and approach some woman. Reading content on this blog is not enough, you have to put it to practice to make things happen.
Good luck and talk to you soon!
-Magic